help!

[martha your cherrybomb]

hello there.. i got this little dilemma and i'm hoping you girls can help me by telling me what you think might be the best idea.

you see, i'm currently taking up Bachelor of Science in Chemical Engineering and is actually on my 4th year... the problem is, i'm having trouble getting my grades up, besides the fact that it's terribly hard, i'm not anymore happy with it because i realized now that what i really wanted to take up (if only i knew then) is sociology.
i only took up engineering because it's a priority course of the scholarship i had. But now that i lost the scholarship,i don't know if i should finish my course or shift to sociology and go back from the start.

please consider the fact that Iam 21 years old and a filipina. i still live with my parents and they are still financing my studies.
do u think i should get a job too?
arggghhh
i'm useless!

[Mr Robot]

That sounds like a tough situation. But if you don't see yourself being happy working as a chemical engineer, then you should really consider moving towards what will make you happy. I got lucky that computers were what I started on, and I am still happy working with them. Having a career/job that you love can make life a lot easier.

[vonpuppyhausen]

...a friend of mine went to school full time for art...then she decided she hated it...she switched majors began going to school part time and working part time...she says shes a lot happier now...plus she says work helps keep her mind off school sometimes...

[inkypinky]

Hey you! Look I'm 25 and still not done with my studies (it's probably going to take another 2 years for me to finish). Plus, most of the peole I study with are older than me. My friend has switched from theatre studies to culture studies a year ago.
I really think if you feel you want to switch to sociology, you should. Don't end up with something you don't really want to do.
And about the job: Talk with your parents. Is it very tough for them to fininance you while your studying?
Together you'll see if it's necessary for you to earn your own money and if yes, how much.

And no, you're not useless. It's a very sad way to think about people if they're only considered "usefull" when they go to work. I mean look, there are so many people doing useless jobs (annoying people with advertising-phonecalls for example, what's that usefull for?), but studying and learning new thing is never useless and you honey, who knows, you might become an important sociologist.

[Katty]

There's no sense in going after something you don't want even if you had a free ticket to do so. Who knows.... new starts are great new beginnning is and would you really want to live life doing something you hate. It's worth taking the time to do what you really want to do. And if starting over with sociology is the way you want to go then get at it. The whole point of school is to work at something you WANT to do. That's why you are provided choices. And as for you parents you shouldn't have to rely on them for money... be more independent then that. I'm not saying go live in a trash can and be a bum, just make sure you can support yourself. Even if you can't contribute all that much to your funds with school I'm quite sure your parents will lend you a hand. They wouldn't be parents if they didn't do so.

Drop you courses.
Get a job
And do what you want to do.


Best of luck to you grrrl. =]

[Flea]

Hi Martha!

I'm currently doing Sociology after working for few years. I'm 22 and in my second year. It's never to late to change your mind! If you don't think you'll be happy with Engineering by all means switch to Sociology! It's a great discipline and we need more people to get involved and help change the world!

You are not useless!

Good luck and remember, there are no wrong decisions, just different paths.

[Rachel-Marie]

Hmm I think you should explain to your parents your situation..if you aren't happy doing what you're doing, you really shouldn't be doing it. You need to live the life YOU want to live, because it is yours afterall.
I'm sure if you explained to your parents, and showed that you have an interest in still studying, but studying something more to your liking, they would be understanding and would help in the best way they could. It's not like you're leaving uni just because you're sick of it and are lazy..you're actually wanting to study something else..which is great.
You should get a job, even if it is part-time or casual, it is always good to have extra money in your pocket, but make sure that your hours can be flexible for your study and recreational time.
Hope this helps.
.xx

[neil]

You don't say how much longer you have to finish the engineering. If it's not too long then i would say finish and then go into sociology. You can't have too many degrees (well you can but the number is very large). Now if you don't like this idea then i advise you do the opposite. Oh and you're not useless, just relax. There is one thing of which i am sure and that is that school is a great place to be. There is Learning, friends and lots of fun.

[martha your cherrybomb]

hey!! guess what guys.. unfortunately i cannot be admitted to sociology within the same university because i had consumed more than 50% of the entire units of my former course...some sort of their policy. so, i decided to transfer to another university but unfortunately again, sociology is not offered there..sucks big time!.. so now, im taking up psychology and iam also thinking of volunteering/working at the center where my sister works. she's a psychologist and currently counseling people, specifically children and women. there will be a lot of outdoor activities and outreach programs. pretty good huh?? thanks for all of your advice!..you're all an inspiration.;)

[inkypinky]

Hey Martha, that sounds cool!